Rebound relationships are usually meant to serve just one purpose, and that is to help you get over your ex. Sometimes a rebound relationship can lead to a pregnancy, but what happens then? Let me tell you, having a baby changes a relationship and this new life may transform your rebound relationship into something more meaningful and special. However, that positive pregnancy test might just signal the beginning of the end of your rebound fling. If you’re pregnant and in a rebound relationship, don’t worry! I am here to help you through this tricky situation.
Is Having a Baby in a Rebound Relationship a Good Idea?
Whether having a baby in a rebound relationship is a good idea or not will depend on how you feel about your new love interest and whether you still have feelings for your ex. Pregnancy and bringing a new baby into the world can put a strain on even the strongest of couples. A husband and wife could have been living in perfect marital bliss and then they have a baby and suddenly everything changes. However, on the flip side, there are couples that were only ever supposed to be a fling, an unexpected pregnancy happens and nine months later they are living happily ever after.
Rebound Relationships are Complicated
A rebound relationship is supposed to be fun, am I right? If you have recently come out of a long term relationship, a rebound can be the perfect remedy to a broken heart.
Having fun with someone else can help you to get over your ex and gives you a good reason to get out and enjoy life, instead of sitting at home in the dark, looking at photos of your ex and crying – we’ve all been there!
Sometimes all that ‘getting over your ex’ fun can lead to an unplanned pregnancy. Suddenly, your carefree fling can become way more serious and you can be left wondering what your future will be like.
When it comes to having a baby in a rebound relationship, there can be a lot of complicated feelings to contend with. You may have only thought about your new partner as a short term solution to your heartbreak, never envisioning a real future with them. Also, often when we are on the rebound, we are still holding onto feelings for our ex (especially if the split was their idea).
Here are some of the key reasons why having a baby in a rebound relationship can be complicated:
- You still love your ex – You may be happy you are pregnant but feel sad about who the father is. If you are still in love with your ex, you may have complicated feelings of wishing the baby was his. This can be tricky for your relationship with your new partner and may also cause a fresh wave of grief that your previous relationship ended.
- He doesn’t want a baby – If your rebound relationship has been casual up until this point, your new partner may be shocked to hear that you have a baby on the way. He may have just been wanting a casual fling with you, he might not have even thought about becoming a father yet. If your new man doesn’t want to be a Dad, it can leave you feeling alone and with a very uncertain future ahead of you.
- You don’t have a connection with the baby’s dad – Rebound relationships are often just a coping mechanism at the end of a more serious and meaningful relationship. Often these relationships are exciting and there is a strong infatuation, but no deep connection. If you become pregnant in a rebound relationship, you may realize that you and your new man are not compatible enough to be a couple, let alone parents.
Whilst it is often said that rebound relationships will never go the distance, a baby can change everything. It depends on the connection you have with your new partner as to whether a baby will make or break your new relationship.
Does having a baby make your relationship worse?
Having a baby can fill your life with love and joy. When a baby is born, everything changes and this includes your relationship. It is not all bad, but there is no denying that pregnancy and caring for a baby can put a strain on even the most stable of relationships
Here are the top reasons why having a baby can make your relationship worse:
- Sleep deprivation – Everyone knows that babies do not sleep well. In fact, your little one can be up every hour of the night and this lack of sleep can really take its toll on a relationship. When you are not getting enough sleep, you can become more irritable and stressed and this can lead to arguments with your partner.
- Resentment – When it comes to caring for a baby, resentment can build up within couples if one parent feels like the other isn’t pulling their weight. If these issues are not communicated, resentment can lead to arguments and make life at home pretty miserable.
- Less time together – Babies need a lot of attention! Your days of going on dates and spending whole weekends in bed are over the second your baby arrives, at least for a little while. Without the quality time, it can feel like you and your partner are drifting apart.
- Less sex – Sex isn’t everything but it is an important part of a happy relationship. It can take time for intimacy to return after childbirth and this lack of sex can start to impact your relationship outside of the bedroom too.
- Communication issues – You may be too wrapped up in baby care to ask your partner about their day and they may be tired of only talking about the baby. Conversation and communication can change when you become parents and this can cause issues within your relationship.
There is no denying that having a baby can make your relationship worse. However, strong couples will be able to make it through those difficult early weeks and months and should come out the other side stronger and with a new found love and respect for each other.
As well as the negatives listed above, having a baby can bring so much joy and strength to a relationship. A baby can bring couples closer together and really cement their commitment to each other. Whether a baby makes or breaks a relationship really depends on the couple and how much they want to make this new family life work.
Seeing your partner love and care for the child you both created can intensify your feelings and your rebound man may just become the love of your life. There are stories of having a baby in a rebound relationship that support both sides of the argument – some rebounds fizzle out in less than a year but others lead to the longed for ‘happily ever after’.
FAQs
Can having a baby make you love your partner more?
Yes, having a baby can make you love your partner more. Creating a new life and raising the baby together can bring a different level of love to your relationship and increase your bond. However, parenting is difficult and does put a strain on even the strongest relationships.
Do relationships change after having a baby?
Yes, having a baby changes relationships. There is less time for spontaneity and alone time when you become parents and sleep deprivation can cause communication breakdown and arguments. However, a baby can bring joy and happiness to a relationship too and bring couples closer together.
How can I keep my relationship strong after having a baby?
It is important that you continue to make time for your partner after a baby arrives. Date nights may become more difficult but just trying to spend quality time together as a family and in the hours your baby is asleep can help to keep the intimacy in your relationship.
Conclusion
Having a baby in a rebound relationship can be a complicated situation to be in. You may still have feelings for your ex and there is no denying having a baby can make a relationship really hard to maintain.
However, it is possible to make things work and for some, having a baby in a rebound relationship is not such a bad idea after all. It can lead to you discovering that your rebound relationship was what you had been looking for all along!
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